Thursday, March 26, 2009


I don't like bragging - I find it extremely unattractive and off-putting. When I write here, I'm collecting the 90mph thoughts I have about something random - work, life, friends, family, experiences. With all my heart, I hope that it never, ever comes off as bragging.

I feel that people who brag about themselves or their situation are 1) are starved for attention and 2) are overcompensating for something. If you're really happy with yourself, your situation, your choices, then you don't need to proclaim to the world many times over that you're happy. If you have to brag, whatever it is isn't that great, you just want people to think it is. This can be a fine line - like arrogance and confidence always seem to be. On one hand, you want to share your happiness with others so that they can be happy with you. If you push it, though, you run the risk of sounding like you're bragging, and as I shared in paragraph 1, bragging is obnoxious. I think that you can be happy with whatever it is that makes you happy and your smiling face, welcoming persona, and open heart will automatically let people know where you are emotionally. Writing here, you obviously don't know if I'm smiling (I'm not currently), if I'm welcoming in my demeanor (not particularly at the moment), if I have an open heart (if you know me, I don't need to tell you this anyway - you probably know.) 

On to the fine line between confidence and arrogance. Confidence requires poise and integrity, while arrogance is the easy way out - it's just acting like you're better than everyone else. It takes no effort to be arrogant - it just takes a sense of entitlement and the cajones not to care about anyone else. I'm quite sick of the sense of entitlement that my generation seems to have. Get over yourselves.

There's my serious post for the week. Take it with a grain of salt. 


Joan said...

I am glad you mentioned your generation being entitled, as I have had an issue with this myself. I'm not sure where this came from, but I did not raise my kids this way either. There are many young women I see that are just as you described - boastful, arrogant and entitled. They should take a lesson from you. You are such an accomplished and intuitive young woman, and I thank you for your insights. Maybe some will take it to heart and make a change.

Wine Chick said...

I never did reply to this comment, and for that I'm sorry. I always try to reply to all comments left here. I don't think we know each other, but I want to say thank you for your comment. I don't know where this obnoxious behavior is coming from but the older I get the more I see it. I can't stand people who act like they're superior when they're really just insecure people who are basically emotional and mental bullies. I wish more people would realize that just because they exist, doesn't mean they're entitled to anything. Work for what you want and not only will you most likely get it, you'll feel great about it because it's ALL YOURS. I believe that's what they call character building. Welcome to adulthood, the land where not everyone gets a trophy or a pat on the back because they showed up.